I’ve been overweight for most of my life. I was 180 lbs when I was 13 years old and by the time I was 26 years old and 250 lbs I thought I had tried it all. I figured I lacked everything it took to lose weight and/or I was incapable of losing weight. I’d “go on a diet” and two or three weeks later I’d stop because I couldn’t do it. I wanted my chips, I wanted seconds at dinner, I wanted to eat dessert and not care about how much. I didn’t want to care about what I ate because it was too tedious, I’d rather just chill in front of the TV and eat whatever I wanted to.
I didn’t lose weight simply because, well, it was hard!
After several years and over 90 lbs lost I have news for all of you:
It’s still hard!
Sure, it’s not as hard as it was at the beginning. At the beginning I was like a child having to re-learn how to live my life. I had to re-learn how to eat, how to move and how to see myself and my life with a different perspective. Now a lot of this is second nature or I’ve created systems to make this easier but my own journey still isn’t done. I still have roughly 40 lbs left to lose and I have to focus every day on it and some days I sigh in frustration, other days I slip entirely but the difference between who I was five years ago and who I am now is that I suck it up and just do it. I know that I will do this for life but it’s what I want.
You want it? You want to get that weight off? You want a better life for yourself?
Fight for it!!!
It’s not going to be easy, I won’t ever promise you that it will be. It’ll be hard, you’ll cry, you’ll want to throw in the towel, you’ll have bad days and you’ll have to put up with people teasing your choices but SUCK IT UP. Nothing worth having is easy so if you want this badly enough, deal with it!
Who cares if you’re nervous to go to the gym, just GO! Do you honestly think that those incredibly fit people you see there just woke up one day with ripped arms and a stomach you can clean your clothes on? NO! They got that way by showing up, day in and day out, and working their asses off! The difference between you and them is that they don’t let excuses get in the way of their goals. They know what they want and they go and work for it.
Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean you can’t do it!
Does it mean you may have to sacrifice something so you can do it? YES! You’re also going to have to look at your entire life and make changes and some of these changes may be very difficult to make but you’ll have to put on your big girl panties and be an adult. None of these changes will kill you even if they feel like they will, emotions don’t kill you but bad health will.
No “diet” will tell you this because they know that if they did, you’d never buy their product/program! No one wants to hear that something they want so badly will be hard to do but I’m sorry, I think it’s doing you a huge disservice. If you are not willing to put in the work, you’ll have to ask yourself if you truly do want this bad enough.
Until 2007 I thought I had wanted to lose weight more than anything in the world. It was obvious that I didn’t. I didn’t commit, I didn’t dedicate myself, I didn’t focus, I allowed myself the option of failing. When I finally did make the choice, once and for all, to do it I felt a burning desire and determination more than I ever had in my life. I knew that I had no choice but to succeed and I was willing to do whatever it took, for however long it would take, to do this.
Fit and healthy people make the decision, each and every day, to be fit and healthy people. If you truly want this, you need to decide if you’re willing to work for it and I mean really work for it. Don’t just go through the motions of your workouts because it won’t work. You need to be willing to sweat, to push yourself beyond what you think you’re capable of. You’re going to have to decide on a meal – to – meal basis what kind of person you’ll be, healthy or unhealthy? You’re going to have to look deep inside yourself and find out who you really are because if you think you’re overweight because you eat too much, think again. You’re overweight because you’re not dealing with something! You’re going to have to find the strength that I know you have to look at those issues straight in the face and deal with them head on.
Yeah, it sounds scary and it can be. But you know what? It’s also the most amazing, wonderful and worthwhile thing I have ever done. It’s been a bumpy ride, for sure, but when I think about who I was before I made this decision to who I am now I know that every step was done for a reason. I am now happier and healthier than I have ever been in my life. I would NEVER go back to where I was in 2007 and every time I feel the urge to throw in the towel I remember that and I ask myself to decide, right there and then, who do I want to be? Unhealthy and unhappy or healthy and happy?
What decision have you made?
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