So today I wanna talk to you about “trying”. That overly used term that we use any time we plan on not doing something.
It’s true! When you say you’re going to “try” to do something, how often do you end up doing it?
That’s what I thought!
To try and do something is almost like giving ourselves a reason not do it. If we say we’ll try to go to the party, we’ll try to work out, or we’ll try to visit Grandma on Sunday, we say it because we know that, in the back of our heads, it’s really not a priority and you’re either trying to make yourself feel better or the person you’re “trying” to do something with.
I hear this and experience it myself all the time when it comes to our health. I hear:
“I’ll try to meal plan this week.”
“I’ll try to work out three days this week.”
“I’ll try journalling my food.”
Every single time I hear “try”, I have to clarify with the person. “What’s it going to be? Are you going to meal plan or are you not?” and then I piss them off even further by asking them WHEN they’re going to do it and tell them to follow-up with me when they’ve done it. When I hear someone say they’ll “try”, there’s something else going on.
If you don’t want to go to the party, be honest! Don’t say you’ll “try” to go, say yes or no! I know you don’t want to hurt your hostess’ feelings but it’s more disrespectful to a hostess when you have no idea who’s actually coming then to have decisive guests who say they can or can’t make it. If you really want to go but you have something else going on, just say so and decide whether you’ll pop by for an hour or say you can’t make it. Sure it sucks if you can’t go but, again, it’s better to decline with honesty than being flakey with dishonesty!
When it comes to your workouts, you either do them or you don’t. When I hear that someone “really wants to work out” but then consistently tells me they’ll “try to fit it in”, it tells me that they really don’t want to do it. This may sound harsh to some of you and you may be crying out in defensive outrage right now but think about it. If it’s really important to you. If you really want your health to be a priority. If you truly want to get fit. You’ll make it a priority and you’ll find a way to make it work and you’ll DO IT. You won’t “try”, you’ll do!
What happens when you make these “try” promises to yourself and to others consistently is that it creates a lack of integrity within yourself. Anytime a friend hears you say you’ll “try” to come to whatever it is they’ve invited you, after a while, like the boy who cried wolf, they’ll know there’s no point in inviting you because you never show up. When you make these promises to yourself, you disrespect YOURSELF! And you know what? YOU KNOW IT! How often do you say you’ll try to do something and while you’re not doing it, you lament about it? How often do you guilt yourself simply because you’re not doing it? All the time!
When you make a definitive statement to the best of your ability, you rest easy that you’ve told the truth and made a decision instead of being wish-washy.
If you’re not going to work out, don’t do it. If you’re going to work out, DO IT! Make a decision! If you’re going to meal plan, pick a day and time and sit down and do it. Or don’t do it! Just decide!
If you’re having trouble making decisions it’s perfectly cool to get some support. Talk to a friend, loved one or coach who can help you to sort out what’s going on so you can make the decision that’s right for you. Not all decisions are easy to make but decisions must be made or else you won’t grow.
So tell me, when’s your next workout?