Alrighty, last week we discussed what to do when someone in your life rears their green-eyed jealous head when you’ve worked your ass off (literally) to lose weight, become healthy, get fit and gain confidence.
But what happens when that green-eyed person is, um… you?
I know, you’re squirming. Possibly you’re also clearing your throat and not making eye-contact with your screen. No one wants to admit that they experience jealousy because, let’s face it, it’s not the most flattering of personality traits. However, I don’t think there’s a person alive who hasn’t experienced jealousy so you’re not alone and you’re certainly not a horrible person! You are completely, uniquely, wonderfully normal. It’s in our nature to want what we can’t have, if it weren’t, it wouldn’t be so easy to get jealous now would it?
There are a few ways you can turn jealousy around and I’m also going to share with you an amazing tip for turning jealousy into your one-way ticket to success! Pretty cool, no?
Put It Into Perspective
I don’t know about you but when jealousy comes to my town I quickly tend to think that the person I’m targeting is “lucky”. “Oh, they’re so lucky that they a six-pack!” “Oh, they’re so lucky that they lost 100lbs in one year, it’s taken me FIVE!”
If this happens to you, keep in mind that, rarely (unless they win the lottery) was it a result of luck and is almost always a result of damned hard work! To get a six-pack or lose a lot of weight in a short period of time takes tremendous discipline, sacrifice and clear-cut goals. Just because they achieved their goal doesn’t mean it was easy for them.
This goes for any sort of jealousy, whether it be with someone finding an amazing man to be with, having a successful career or the house you’ve always wanted I can guarantee that, if you talked to them frankly, you’d learn what it took for them to get it. Successful careers never happen out of luck or overnight, you have no idea if finding that amazing man came after years of crappy ones or just how much of a mortgage that person had to take out to get that house.
Think back on a time when you discovered someone was jealous of you. What was your reaction? I don’t know about you but, for me, mine was to wrinkle my forehead and nose and ask why! I knew how hard I worked for what I had and it wasn’t anything to be jealous of, I just did what had to be done to get what I wanted.
Everything can be put into perspective. The next time you notice you’re jealous of someone, put it into perspective. Ask them how they did it and I can guarantee that you’ll quickly realize it wasn’t all fun and games!
Use Them As Inspiration
If you want a surefire way to turn jealousy of others into success for yourself it’s to use them as inspiration!
Think about it, they have what you want! Tell them you’d like to buy them a coffee and ask them a few questions about their success and you’ll learn, step-by-step, exactly everything you need to know to achieve that exact same goal! Instead of cutting them out of your life, getting mad, stomping your feet and talking about them behind their back, use that energy to achieve those very same goals!
In fact, I encourage you to sit down and think about the people you’re jealous of and why. Write it all down. Then, call each person and arrange a coffee date so you can grill them. Not only will you find some wicked perspective (your friend who travelled around the world last year had to re-finance her mortgage to do it – it wasn’t luck, it was just figuring out how to do what she wanted to do) but you’ll learn the steps and other people involved that helped them to achieve their goals.
It’s so easy to sit back and judge or be jealous but if you want to get that weight off, have a successful career, travel around the world or what have you, sitting around isn’t going to help anything, you have to get up and do! The people who have achieved it for themselves can help you with that and, most likely, will become your biggest fans!
The next time you feel a twang of jealousy, before you let it get out of control, put it into perspective and figure out what you can learn from them instead. When you start to make this a habit, pretty soon you won’t have to worry about it so much and you’ll wind up mastering the art of dealing with other peoples’ jealousy instead!
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